Hello,
I am having some problems and don’t know who to turn to. My husband and I have been together for six years, I love him very much. He is my world, we have great memories together and have always laughed and simply enjoyed being around each other. Recently he was diagnosed with a type of social anxiety, he couldn’t hold a job because he couldn’t stand to be away from me (even though I work full time). He felt safe at home waiting for me. I was patient and waited for him to find something he would be happy doing. Finally he decided to see a psychiatrist.
I am so confused, and so hurt right now! He was put on several medications, klonipin, celexa, ambien and lamictal. He is not the same person. He is so mean, he won’t hug me, or kiss me anymore. He has violent mood swings, took his wedding ring off and pretty much said it’s over. Nothing in our relationship has changed, other than these medications. He will be happy one minute and screaming at me the next, saying everything is all my fault, and that I have pushed him away for so long it’s too late. What?! He spent 75 dollars on new earrings for himself, and disappeared for two hours.
I have called his doctor, but due to hippa they will only pass a message on to the Doc to call my husband. My husband doesn’t think anything is wrong, so blows it off. He will take the ambien, not sure how much and then literally fall out of the computer chair, I have to drag him to bed. I have horrible insomnia, so I tried a half a pill for about a week, I became suicidal very quickly and stopped taking it.
I’m worried about my husband and my marriage!
Help!
–Sherry
Sherry {and all other Women ~ A MUST read},
Several of your husband’s symptoms might possibly be related to a larger under diagnosed issue. Many Drs don’t even have the right answers.
This issue is Hormones ~ but wait before you roll your eyes and blow this off you should know this is from personal experience. So Much misunderstood ANDROPAUSE problems cause so many changes in a man’s body & mind IT IS BOGGLING! That’s right, its similar to the women’s Pause.
I experienced loss of so many things ~ didn’t want to go anywhere, didn’t want to call anyone, even my own family, irrational decisions, loss of energy, didn’t want to accomplish anything, hot flashes and more, however Sleep-Problems are also related to LOW TESTOSTERONE. This can begin at nearly any man’s age. To find out it’s a simple Blood-Test. In fact, if blood is drawn for ANY test all you need do is ask – it’s just a stupid box they check off; no extra cost.
Not going to give a lesson in the two types of TESTOSTERONE Tests ~ Normal and Free. The regular
or Normal range is about 200 to 800. The lower the number the worst it is. There are many meds that can be given and I went through them all until I found the one that works best for me.
One thing that many MD’s do is right away put a man on an AntiDepressant. Maybe good, maybe not.
I looked for an age in your post, but didn’t see one. I’ll let you know that my TESTOSTERONE problems started when I was 44, and widely thought that it could have begun years before. So, the last thought is you can at least get a base number, even if the Doc says he’s ok.
Good Doc Hunting,
Buck from Texas
November 15,2009
you should have an intervention with your husband or something…the medication is having a bad reaction to him it seems to be doing the opposite of what its suppose to do! ive had that happen to me before it stinx…. maybe when hes asleep take his meds away and hide them and see how he is and call the doctor and tell them whats going on…i kno about the hippa laws sometimes their good sumtimes their not….good luck hun